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Reflecting the Positives in Me – #AtoZchallenge – B is for…

I try to find the best in everyone

I try to find the best in everyone

There’s good in all of us. And looking at someone, we only see what they want us to see. We don’t know the circumstances that have made that person act the way they do. We cannot know their true self unless they open up. It is only when they refuse to open up and share their challenges, when they bite your hand repeatedly, that you have to back down. But there is always good in everyone. You just have to accept that they may have buried it deep a long time ago.



  1. Comment by Teresa Kander:

    How nice for all the people that you meet. 🙂
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  2. Comment by Michelle Wallace:

    I also tend to see the good in everyone. And every person deserves a chance.
    You never know what makes a person behave in a certain way…
    You can’t really understand another person’s experience until you’ve walked a mile in his shoes…
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  3. Comment by Cheryl:

    I remember, years ago, sitting around with a couple women friends (who unfortunately I let slip from my life) with a bottle of wine. One of them said “What’s special about me is that I see what’s special about you” I have never forgot that and try to be that kind of person.

  4. Comment by Yolanda Renee:

    It’s the best way to view life!

  5. Comment by Yvonne Ventresca:

    Love your positivity!


  6. Comment by Patricia Lynne:

    This is very true and sometimes when people are being cranky or sour I try to remind myself that there might be a reason that I don’t know and I shouldn’t take their mood personal.

  7. Comment by Ava Quinn:

    Great words of wisdom! Reminds me of the old saying about walking a mile in another person’s shoes. Nice post. 🙂 Bookmarking your site! (since I’m not on Facebook)
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  8. Comment by Mary Aalgaard:

    Great posts for the challenge. I also (mostly) see the good in everyone, especially right away.

  9. Comment by Tom Benson:

    Another simple piece of philosophy, but very true, and dare I say, insightful.

  10. Comment by S. Katherine Anthony:

    This is such a powerful message. So true. We really never know what’s deep within the people around us, just like they don’t know what we’re keeping to ourselves. Love the post!

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    • Comment by LadyJai:

      My husband wears his “mask” often! I guess I do too. So I know what it’s like to have a story behind the mask. People look at me often and think I’m stuck up just because I don’t talk much, or I don’t assert myself because I’m shy, or I can’t do anything with friends because I have to take care of my husband. People just don’t know, don’t get it, or don’t want to. 🙂

  11. Comment by Paula:

    I find it very, very hard to see the BEST in everyone!
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  12. Comment by Glenda Cates:

    I agree with you and we just have to look past the outside to the inside.

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  13. Comment by SD Neeve:

    Another great post like yesterday. Really loving your theme. :)

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  14. Comment by Elsie Amata:

    I left this comment over at my blog, but I know with the Challenge it’s hard to visit a blog twice. I wanted you to know how much I appreciate your comment over there:

    As soon as I saw your blog name, I felt an immediate connection to you. Reading your comment made it that much stronger. I thank you. Thank you for who you are and what you do. My hubby is also a military vet with some issues from his service (although not combat related). A career in the service changes people. Mostly for the better, but if they aren’t cautious, it can also put them into that military mentality and when it doesn’t translate to the civilian sector – man, it’s rough. So, I commend you for sticking by your husband.

    Okay, now onto *your* blog, which is really why I’m here. I absolutely love your perspective on life and on people. You’re right, it’s better to think the best of people, rather than toss them to the curb…unless they harm you mentally or physically, they deserve a chance. Usually, they have been damaged by someone else somewhere along the line.

    Hugs to you!!

    AJ’s wHooligan in the A-Z Challenge

    • Comment by LadyJai:

      Oh my gosh this brought some tears to my eyes. You make my heart happy with your words. I am so glad to have connected with you and I hope we can continue after this month. 🙂 I’m glad you like what I am doing for the A to Z. Thank you for going out of your way to allow me to see your reply! <3

  15. Comment by Donna B. McNicol [@dbmcnicol]:

    So very, very true!!

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  16. Comment by helen jameson:

    Well said, Lady Jai! It is hard though when a big porcupine person is bristling in front of you. I make eye contact, smile, and give’em some Jesus.

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    • Comment by LadyJai:

      True enough. Sometimes you just have to soften the bristles just enough (a smile sometimes makes its way through) so you can part them to see that little gem they hide.

  17. Comment by Sophie Duncan:

    I do try to see the best in everyone, but sometimes I’m more successful than in others. I suppose it depends on how grumpy I’m feeling as well – which says a lot about me. :)

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    • Comment by LadyJai:

      We all have our challenges in this department because some people wear a hardened mask while others wear their heart on their sleeve. 🙂 Just keep trying.

  18. Comment by MAJK (@Safireblade):

    Love this one! It’s a tough one for most people to do. I struggle with it more often that I want to admit.

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  19. Comment by simple girl:

    Difficult to follow at all times but so true…

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