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Reflecting the Positives in Me – #AtoZchallenge – A is for…

I AM NOT ALONE And neither are you!

And neither are you!

It took me a very long time to realize this. I found it difficult to make, and keep, friends because of my situation, especially after TheHubs got out of the military. It took 15 years for me to find a group who “got it.” And now I know, I’m not alone. If you want to read how, please visit my other blog. I wrote about being/feeling Alone.

It doesn’t matter what you are going through. Everyone’s situation is unique. But, there are others out there who understand and deal with the same emotions you are going through. Don’t ever give up. Seek them out and you will find out, too, that you are not alone!



  1. Ping from Stephanie Scott:

    Finding friends as an adult is tough–I hear ya. I guess that’s why we hang on to friends from childhood for so long.

    • Ping from LadyJai:

      Unfortunately, with my military involvement, I’ve lost all my friends…except through Facebook, but that is so not the same 🙂

  2. Ping from Lisa Buie-Collard:

    One thing I like about doing this blog is how I feel not alone in this writing game I’m in. I like what you’ve done with your photos. Cool idea…

  3. Ping from Tom Benson:

    A good old-fashioned and simple way of looking at an individual’s situation. Okay, it may feel individual, but how easy it is to see others who need a hand, or an ear.
    An eloquent piece.
    Tom Benson recently posted…B … is for biographyMy Profile

    • Ping from LadyJai:

      Thank you, again. I was taught that there’s always two sides to the story. So, I take that further and try and see things from their point of view.

  4. Ping from Gary Philip Pennick:

    Greetings, my human friend,

    I’m forever telling my human, Gary, to find the pawstives in what he pawceived as negatives.

    One never need feel alone. My human and I both understand the powerful gift that is empathy.

    Pawsitive wishes,

    Penny the Jack Russell dog and modest internet superstar! 🙂
    Gary Philip Pennick recently posted…The Alphabark Challenge, 2014!My Profile

    • Ping from LadyJai:

      Awww thanks for stopping by my little pawpal! 😀 I tried to get my furbabies interested in your post but they tend to do what they want when they want it. I’m just their purrson. 🙂

  5. Ping from Elsie Amata:

    Lady Jai, you are singing my song right now. I thought I was alone too. It was sad and heartbreaking, ugh, but once I found others like me – wow! What a relief to have a good support group. You and I travel different but similar paths.

    Be well!

    AJ’s wHooligan in the A-Z Challenge

  6. Ping from SD Neeve:

    Feeling alone is a had thing to conquer. For me—an introvert—I find it especially difficult to connect with people. Sure it’s easy to type a few words and communicate, but that’s only because no one can see me. But even that can become overwhelming sometimes.
    Thanks for bringing light to this subject, like you, I hate having my photo taken. ;)
    All the best for your A to Z journey. :)

    SD Neeve recently posted…B—IS FOR BELINDA CROMPTON…My Profile

  7. Ping from Yvonne Ventresca:

    Great sentiment, and I love the photo!


  8. Ping from Jessica:

    What uplifting and encouraging thoughts. Sometimes, that’s all you need, is to know you’re not alone.

    Visions of Other Worlds

    Jessica recently posted…#atozchallenge: Allons-y!My Profile

  9. Ping from Erica Gore:

    Lots of lonely people rejoice when they read this.
    Thank you.

  10. Ping from Donna B. McNicol [@dbmcnicol]:

    Wonderul kick-off for the A-Z challenge! I’ll be back tomorrow for more….

    …a fellow A-Zer

    Donna B. McNicol [@dbmcnicol] recently posted…#AtoZchallenge: Arriba or AboveMy Profile

  11. Ping from Tui Snider @TuiSnider:

    Great advice! :D

    For me, the internet has been key to keeping me in touch with those who “get” me.

    ~Tui Snider~
    My blog: Tui Snider’s Offbeat & Overlooked Travel
    I am also part of the #StoryDam team, a friendly writing community!

    Tui Snider @TuiSnider recently posted…A is for Antique Alley TexasMy Profile

  12. Ping from Lynda R Young:

    Life can seem lonely, but if we have the courage to seek a connection, then we’ll quickly discover we aren’t alone.

    I love the pic.
    Lynda R Young recently posted…How to be Patient with your Writing CareerMy Profile

  13. Ping from Kyra Lennon:

    Great post. Feeling alone is a horrible thing, and I’m glad you don’t feel alone anymore!
    Kyra Lennon recently posted…A is for AfterMy Profile

  14. Ping from Holli:

    I agree. Loneliness is one of the worst emotions a person can feel. I’m glad you’ve found your way out of it.

    Holli recently posted…A is for Adventure: My Quest to Become The Island ConnoisseurMy Profile

  15. Ping from Paula:

    Sometimes is is just too hard to seek!
    Paula recently posted…Assholes, Angels, and AngerMy Profile

    • Ping from LadyJai:

      I was there recently. It was so very hard to see through the negatives that were bombarding me every day. If you would, take the time to read my story over on my other blog and maybe, hopefully, I can shine a little light on you. *hugs*

  16. Ping from Ida Chiavaro:

    Hi Lady Jai, this is probably the best synopsis to a story I have ever read. The rest of my comment is for your readers. Take the time to read the post Alone 🙂 Reflex Reactions

  17. Ping from Charity Bradford:

    This is so true! So many people (everyone at some time or other) struggles with this “alone” feeling. Even when we’re surrounded by others.

    So glad you found some peace!
    Charity Bradford recently posted…Doctor Who–A is for Allons-y!My Profile

  18. Ping from Michelle Wallace:

    Lovely post!
    It makes me think of these words:”The person who tries to live alone will not succeed as a human being. His heart withers if it does not answer another heart. His mind shrinks away if he hears only the echoes of his own thoughts and finds no other inspiration.”
    Michelle Wallace recently posted…A is for Autographs/AtlasMy Profile

  19. Ping from Rebekah Loper:

    *hugs* I struggle with feeling alone frequently, as well, and some of it is the curse of being an introvert. I’ve not yet figured out how to ask people to be around me but not talk to me, lol.
    Rebekah Loper recently posted…Architecture: Using Buildings to Enhance Your SettingMy Profile

    • Ping from LadyJai:

      Introverts Unite! 😀
      Yeah, I’m the same way, too. I am doing my best to come out and interact more. But at least with the internet, I can turn off the noise when I need to! 🙂

  20. Ping from Sydney Aaliyah:

    Two years ago, I lived thousands of miles away from home and felt isolated and alone and then I started a blog and began to interact with others online and it kind of brought me back home.
    It does wonders knowing your not alone. Great post.
    Sydney Aaliyah Michelle
    2014 A to Z Challenge
    Nicole’s #atozchallenge Mighty Minion

    • Ping from LadyJai:

      Living away from family is always hard. I’ve been a part of military life since the day I was born. But it wasn’t really until we lived in Germany and I was away from my parents and the comforts of the US that I realized how hard it was. Luckily the internet is a connection for you. It wasn’t very big when I lived there. I’m sure it would be very different nowadays. 🙂

  21. Ping from MAJK (@Safireblade):

    “Don’t ever give up. Seek them out and you will find out, too, that you are not alone!”

    I’m tattooing this to your forehead… Okay, maybe that’s excessive but never forget this. Great day 1positive affirmation!

    Proud of to be your friend
    A-to-Z Challenge 2014
    Mighty Minion of Co-Host Nicole Ayers
    @Safireblade on Twitter
    MAJK (@Safireblade) recently posted…Antemortem: Fiction ~ Day 1 #AtoZChallengeMy Profile

  22. Ping from Rachel Morgan:

    Writing can be a lonely business, and it’s thanks to this ginormous blogging community that I know I am never ALONE! (And thanks to God, of course! But I’m talking about the physical world here 😉 )

    • Ping from LadyJai:

      The internet has fueled my writing desires. It has surrounded me with like people and it does make the lonely business of writing more bearable. 🙂

  23. Ping from Rhi:

    I’m glad you found people who understand you. I too have a few of those people too 🙂

    Rhi recently posted…A is for AmberMy Profile

    • Ping from LadyJai:

      It’s always nice to have people understand your situation, not necessarily pity you…but empathize with you. That is what makes you feel “not alone”. Thanks for stopping by!

  24. Ping from Teresa Kander:

    Great advice….it’s always rewarding to find that you are not alone!!
    Teresa Kander recently posted…A Is For AffectionateMy Profile

  25. Ping from Angela Brown:

    That knowledge that you are not alone reduces that feeling of isolation and loneliness. And that it good, because it helps you do things like you’re doing now, recognizing the positives in you 🙂
    Angela Brown recently posted…Welcome A. L. Kessler to Publishness-land 🙂My Profile

    • Ping from LadyJai:

      This is one HUGE challenge for me. I don’t like focusing on me. I don’t like drawing attention to me. I don’t like pictures of me. But I must eliminate the negative so the positives can shine through and I can hopefully share some smiles and positives with others. 🙂

  26. Ping from Leigh Anne:

    Sorry I’m not an ENCOURAGING friend. We’ve kinda stopped talking and I don’t know why. I miss you.

  27. Ping from LuAnn Braley:

    I’m so glad you kept on looking (and finally found it). And now you are passing that light at the end of the tunnel on to people who might need it? (I think you get brownie points today. Or, real brownies, even!)

    LuAnn Braley
    AJ’s Hooligans @AtoZChallenge
    Back Porchervations
    LuAnn Braley recently posted…#AtoZChallenge – Altruism and Proverbs 31My Profile

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