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Happy New Year 2014! Let the Positives & #WriteMotivation Flow!

First of all, let me wish you all a very Happy New Year. May it be better than the last, full of hope and joy and love.

As you may have noticed, the last time I updated my blog was near two months ago. There have been so many things I’ve been dealing with the last year and the fact that I fail at opening up to anyone, it got so overwhelming I fell back into the abyss of blackness. With some pharmaceutical help as well as my own determination to find connections and help, I’m slowly climbing back up out of that hole. I found that the VA has a Caregiver Support Program. There are a number of things I can do. I’ve already forced myself to go to one of their seminars and found that even though my situation is unique, the symptoms and stresses we have to deal with are unbelievably similar. I’ve vowed to keep in contact with at least one of them. And so far it’s working, even though she lives in Tampa. I’ve also taken a Writing To Heal workshop, again forcing myself to go out of the house on my own. That was a very nice experience as well. Most of the things that were taught I was already doing. What I found helpful was the structure and time constraints that would force you not to dwell and come out with some positives. You know how much I believe in positive thinking. It’s the hardest thing you could ever do, especially when you’ve lost your hope. But this will be my way to help myself.

This year is going to be better! I’m determined. Are you?

My amazing friends, KT Hanna and M. Andrew Patterson organized the WriteMotivation website. Hopefully we can get more exposure now and if you’re interested, we have monthly signups and hangouts and twitter cheering! Come on in and join us! We love our dino chucking cookie cheerleader! <3

On to my January #WriteMotivation goals

  1. Get back into the swing of things. while on vacation I stagnated, zero words.
    Since falling into the darkness, it’s been quite difficult to write. Plus I was sick over the holidays. The ENTIRE holidays, which of course was my vacation as well. So, now, I’m getting back into writing. I’ve not been writing on my WIP…yet. But I’ve cleaned up a few poems I started during my dark days and I’ve actually started writing a letter to my congressman/senator in order to see if we can expedite TheHub’s VA Appeal process. We got word a few weeks back that his claim he submitted in 2009 is still in the system. He’s number 1702 out of 21009. At least they know we are checking and haven’t given up. Maybe if I can prod the congressman/senator into looking at it, maybe they can figure out a way to fix the process. It is a terrible process. And they (Congress) keeps taking money from our service members and their benefits. It really is infuriating. But, I’m writing something…right?
  2. Work on my positive thinking and trying to connect with other caregivers of veterans. Over the last 3 months I’ve spiraled out of control into a deep abyss and I am trying to claw my way back out.
    Working on that with the VA Caregiver Program, the Facebook groups I found online, and helping to support my friend in Tampa.
  3. Playing with a new idea for a blog but this may be private for a while and will be a different website. This should help with #2.
    This hasn’t gotten off the ground yet, still working it out in my brain. But, last night there might be another, different, and promising opportunity for me in the writing industry. *fingers crossed*
  4. Read another book. In progress…trying to finish up Xenocide, the 3rd book in the Ender Series.

LadyJai

8 Comments

  1. Comment by LadyJai:

    Thank you all for your kind words. It’s easier now to see that you’re not “just saying that” now that the negative voices have quieted. 🙂 *loves you all*

  2. Comment by Valerie Lawson:

    nothing is harder than asking for help when everything is at its blackest. so glad you’ve found some support closer to home. we love you. i have a son with special needs and know how infuriating governmental processes can be trying to get benefits, etc. we gave up on one set of benefits when the waiting list tapped out at five years. we didn’t give up on the other and now he finally has some. still, cutting through the red tape is exhausting. one thing we caretakers are terrible about is taking care of ourselves, but nothing is better for us than doing just that. BIG HUGS! Here’s to a much better year.

  3. Comment by Cheyenne:

    So glad to see you back online a bit more lately, and I’m SO happy that you found that writing workshop, and the caregiver support program. I suppose everyone’s situation is unique, but it’s so amazing to connect with people who can relate to our specific scenario in some way… I hope it makes a big difference. Love you! xx (Dugald says hi to you all 🙂

  4. Comment by K.T. Hanna:

    I will be there every step of the way. I KNOW you can do this 😀 You will be fantastic and have an amazing month because that’s the person you are. *hugs you*

    Much love for you. Also – your post goes live on Monday! Remind me to set you up a user when we have time to chat next <3

  5. Comment by Patricia Lynne:

    *hugs* It was a rough end of the year, wasn’t it? Glad you’re pulling yourself out of the darkness. If you ever need help, I’ll be happy to lend a hand.

  6. Comment by Rebekah Loper:

    *hugs* I’ve dipped in and out of that dark place a few times myself the past few months, though the darkest times were just after Tabby passed on and I told myself to give it time, and if things weren’t looking brighter in a month or two (and to remember to take my vitamin D supplements >_<), then I could legitimately go to the doctor and see about getting help for depression.

    Ten years ago I never would have thought depression would be something I'd have to consider, but I never thought I'd experience the crap I have the past 10 years, either.

    But we are both survivors, dear! I'm praying for you.

  7. Comment by Angela Brown:

    Although I’m saddened to know you slipped into that dark place, I’m more than pleased you made the choice NOT to stay there. That’s what’s most important. Here’s to 2014 being a better year 🙂

  8. Comment by Cheryl:

    Great to see you ‘up & running’

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