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The Elusive Word and #Writemotivation


Almost......ALMOST.....Damn, it moved again!

I must admit, my vocabulary is not very large, despite my insatiable thirst to read. I can usually get the meaning of something based on the context. But ask me to give a definition. Or recall it at a later time. Nope. Not me. For some reason, my brain does not hold those words. I’m not a walking dictionary! Despite how much I try to remember them, they always fall out of my head. You know…like those SAT analogy questions that you have no idea their relationship so how the hell do you make an analogy with them?

a) celebrity : infamous
b) erudition : urbane
c) moderation : dissolute
d) distinction : singular
e) intuition : logical

If you want to, go ahead and answer that…I know there are many people out there that can get these, it’s just not me. Sorry.

So, I was thinking….

Have you ever had a word that was stuck on the tip of your tongue? A word you know means the same as the simple one that comes to mind? No matter how far you reach, how hard you grasp, or how much you bash your head against the wall you still can’t get that word out?

You know, kinda like Itty Bitty up there trying to get the sparkly pom-pom from under the bathroom door. “Almost…..almost……just a little farther…..almost….damn it moved again.”

Yeah, just like that.

So, what do you do about it?

Me, well, I usually hit that wall, the invisible one that won’t let the words flow anymore, not until I find just that right word. It frustrates me. It baffles me. It makes me twirl around in my chair until I want to puke. I usually do this for a while, even if I am not by myself. Then, I just blurt it out…”I need a word!”

When I blurt that out, I’m either at work, and only one real person there can help me…and understand me. If I’m at home, either my husband or my son are around. But usually my son is closest and he is so eager to help. I think I help him more than he helps me sometimes because I am building his vocabulary. I secretly hope he will be better at vocabulary than I am. But anyway. I think it gives my brain time to relax and unfocus. When I start thinking on his level (he’s 9) then I can open my brain and recall the word I need.

Have any of you ever experienced something similar? How do you recall those elusive words on the tip of your tongue?

Now, on to my #WriteMotivation goals:

  1. So far so good with the blog posts, even though I don’t have much of a readership, or comments. 🙂 No bust. As long as I keep talking, right?!
  2. I’m still “making forward momentum!” I have to kick myself every day to get this through my head:  Rule for the First Draft is A single word is progress. Zero words is stagnation. And deleting words is regression. We always want progression and one word is AWESOME! :)
  3. I’ve found I have been lax on the whole twitter support for others and I apologize. My real life situations have been taking a toll on my emotional health and I am fighting just to stay positive. It takes a lot of energy. And sometimes, that negative voice wins out. Not just that negative writer voice, but the negative everything else voice. It always makes me wondering if people really care, if life will ever get better, what’s my purpose..you know, all THOSE things. So yeah, staying positive. Keeping a smile on my face. Doing my best for me seems to leave you all without my famous Zombie Cookies. I’m sorry!
  4. I’m just over half way through B’s crit/beta on her novel. I love it. Not much to crit really, so I am just enjoying the story, mostly. I’ll be done soon-ish.:)


  1. Ping from Valerie Lawson:

    i agree with cheyenne about making a note and then coming back to it. i have so many notes off to the side of my ms about similar things – “need to change into a dialogue scene” or “crit group questioned the need for this part, think of alternative”. i put those notes in whenever i’m stuck or don’t quite have the solution or i’m just not ready to work on a section yet. that way i can keep moving and come back to it later.

    as to having a down week, i think it may be catching. i’ve had a fairly lousy time with negativity lately as well. this group is one thing that helps me rebound faster. 🙂

  2. Ping from Cheyenne Hill:

    As my other half always says, “It can’t rain all the time.” I hope things improve for you soon, but seriously – I’ve only just joined this whole writemotivation thing, but you seem VERY active on Twitter, encouraging everyone and being full of positivity! Don’t be down on yourself at all!

    I’m very new to the blogging world compared to most writers out there, so I don’t have much of a readership at ALL, but I’m grateful for anyone who stops by. So I know the feeling. Just keeping up the conversation, regardless of how many stop by, is fantastic.

    As for words just out of reach, I either ask whoever is around, or my sisters on instant messenger across the ocean, or use thefreedictionary.com or thesaurus.com. I get there in the end, mostly. But sometimes I have to just type in “that word that kinda means XYZ” and come back to it 😉 No shame… 😀

    • Ping from LadyJai:

      Thank you so much for stopping by, reading and commenting. I still consider myself a n00b in blogging! And I will still write/speak my mind even if no one comes. But still the numbers make me sad sometimes! 🙂 I’m doing my best to keep cheerful and looking at the positive of everything. It’s just taking a whole lot more energy than normal! I’ll get back on track soon. Everything ebbs and flows! 🙂

  3. Ping from Stephanie Berget:

    Thanks for repeating that any words are progress. I get down because I’m sot reaching my daily goal but I am progressing. Keep your chin up. It’s hard when the gloomies get you. I’m cheering for you.

    • Ping from LadyJai:

      I try so hard not to compare myself to others. So that’s why I came up with my golden rule of first drafts! And I am happy to share it and hope it’ll help others too! It’s not about the word cound but progression! 🙂

      Thanks! I’m trying to sweep the gloomies back under the rug! 🙂

  4. Ping from Leigh Caroline:

    I know that feeling about hunting for words SO well. I need to actually get a physical dictionary/thesaurus for the times where I go, “I think the word is similar feeling to this other word”. Dictionary.com doesn’t know what to do with those, lol!

    Don’t worry about the readers/commenters. I feel like I’m shouting into the wind most of the time too, but eventually, when you’re A Famous Author ™, you’ll be glad that you have all these posts!

    *Hugs on the rest*

    • Ping from LadyJai:

      Thanks, Leigh! *hugs* and I live in a thesauraus too! But if you don’t have the right definition of some of those words, it’s pointless. I know there are better words out there to describe what they are doing and what not, I just have to keep reading I guess. 🙂

  5. Ping from Rebekah Loper:

    Hey, as long as you’ve got one person reading, you’ve got a readership! I count as a person . . . I think.

    Yay forward momentum! I have made . . . none.

    I know exactly what you mean about real-life situations being brutal. I’m in the same boat right now.

    We can survive!

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